“懒惰”死
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有种死法,在目前的国内还不是很能被接受,那是“安乐死”的死法,执行者并不能保证被“安乐死”的当事人真的是为了追求快乐而愿意接受执行的,万一,当事人是被迫的,那将成为谋杀,万一当事人是个犯人,在误判之后被执行了“安乐死”,而不是西方一些国家的长期徒刑(可能是128年),那么,冤屈将永世不得翻身……
但是,把“安乐死”与“懒惰死”拿来相比较,我们很容易联想到温水煮青蛙的故事,而现实生活中,尤其是目前竞争日益激烈,工作、机会日趋不稳定的时候,“温水”的环境倒是很难找到,比较易被我们同样当做“温水”处理的是什么呢?那则是我们普通人因为“恐惧改变”而“被迫”对自己实施“温水”的“自溺”死刑。
举例子好了,大学刚毕业接近一年的时候,有一位土木工程专业的同学那时做出了一个决定,辞职考研,且不说理智与否的问题,从这件事上我们能了解到的信息是–他已经足够痛苦,而且采取了措施,决定了不再在他不满的环境下度过安逸、没有“激情”的余生,学习基础并不出色的他毅然决然选择了继续进修,这是个正面的例子。而另外还有一例一直纠结于“是否要因为贪恋大城市的繁华而留在北京”的时候,那同学并没有采取什么措施,相反,他只是日复一日地重复着打工、居无定所,收入不稳定、不知为何而奔跑的折磨,最终全然不记得是为何留在所在的三尺办工作,生怕有朝被“炒掉”。
与这两个实例相近的还有一个典型的故事例子,其实这是一则比较有智慧性问题:
请问:当你手中拿着一个烧红了的热铁时,你会做什么?
答:?
或许是:立刻丢掉
或许是:放手
……
当然,这都是决定,无论好坏都知道自己存在于一个危险的环境中,并且必须采取一些措施,逃离痛苦。“温水”对于青蛙,还是“工作”,“学习”对于一个无法采取改变措施的人来说,都一样,那则是:无法预计到自己的痛苦,对痛苦的体验不够深刻,懒得去设想未来的痛苦,懒得去做一些逃离痛苦的事情,所以,我们把青蛙之死的案例称为“温水煮青蛙”,那把清楚自己的处境却不敢“逃离痛苦”的人的发展称为“懒惰死”也就理当不过分了。
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