你能承担得起怎样的成本?
你能承担得起怎样的成本?
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不止一个人与我讨论了,也不知道多少人都有过类似的问题,他们说:希望和别人真诚相对,做个好朋友、好的合作伙伴,可是总不自觉地给自己上上保护锁,一定得留得一手资料,话语总得在说的时候咽下一半,行事之前务必让自己反复思虑,还是少走半步,免得所受的伤害过大……这样的话,可以算是畏首畏尾吧,也算是安全了,我们可以把这种心理行为叫做“假象的负面预期”,那就是把行为的结果全部消极化。比如:
作为上司就猜测:“我说了这话,员工会不会认为我有成见?”
员工或学生在做决定之前会过分考虑,别人会怎样地眼光做出怎样的猜测……
年轻人则会猜测:我这么说出口之后,会不会在被拒绝后连普通朋友都做不成?
如此一来,事情的运作被复杂化,结果被消极化,沟通被迟钝化,一些隐隐约约难以呈现真实面目,想采取的行动又被“假象的负面预期”消磨殆尽,日复一日,工作学习都劳累无比。
这种情况,我们可以拿开饭店做生意来比较,从而来减轻做决定前的忧虑愁绪,大家都知道开饭店会盈利,很多人都想拥有一家属于自己经营的店铺,可是成为老板的人又少之又少(相比有开店意愿的人而言)。
首先,开饭店之前需要有一间铺子,这个就吓退了一批想开店的人,其实除了买店面,还可以租,甚至可以与别的店面合并、共用一地,先占得一只脚跟,再图长远发展……
其次,开店盈利需要时间积累,不是一件事情一旦开始立刻就会有明显的结果浮出水面,这个又有一批人难以耐心等待,会用大部分的精力去计算和怀疑盈利所需要等待的时日。
另外,还有一旦当开店不成功,又无法瞬间将店面外兑的时候,店上的装饰画面、客人用过的旧碗筷,为了本店做的昂贵的装饰和招牌都很难再被利用,只能廉价当做废品卖给回收处,这个是凡开店之人都该做好的心理准备。
这些便是真正的成本:当你需要去做决定的时候,不管成败与否,为了这个决定所准备的系列无法避免、也无法回收的付出,就是成本,如果你想不做任何的付出与风险承担,还做什么生意呢?你想把所有的风险都避免在做决定之前,那还做什么领导,做什么决定呢?
试想,你把所忧虑的一切都当做是做决定的成本,把做结果达成作为一件生意,岂不简单有条理?设想如下:
我想告诉员工,你迟到3次了,而且会议缺席,不是没考虑你最近闹离婚,而是已经到达了一定的限制,你必须得到相应的惩罚,这是一件事情执行的最初目的,若员工肯能因此辞职,那便是下达惩罚命令的成本和风险;
我想告诉老板,主管不是一次两次欺负和强占我的设计成果了,那好,老板知道了为你做主这是最初想达成的目的,那么,老板和主管沆瀣一气,你被迫下岗走人就是成本和风险,这恰似一场生意;
我想追得一个女孩子,平日是好朋友,其一、追到手了便此生无憾,可是那人眼光甚高,追不到了以后见面甚为尴尬;其二、花费一年青春去讨好逢迎她,也未必见得成效,那到底是规矩一下自己的行为还是开始行动呢?若是把它当做一件生意,你能承受多大成本,尤其是像投资店里装修字画、很难回收的字画、碗筷那样的成本,可以承受么?
当你给出自己答案,“可以”,或者“不可以”的时候,你就知道怎么做了。
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