反思不是目的

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反思不是目的–反思还是顺思

                                                                   

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    活着，位于“自保”的阶段，编织着一些谎言，以后终究需要生活的措手不及的冲击来弥补过往挖下的漏洞，这是大部分人的活法，也注定大部分人要在反思和痛苦中成长。


   

还有很多一部人，在反思和痛苦中更加痛苦，却不是成长，而这样由反思产生的痛苦本身又开始新一轮的消磨，对象是已然所剩无几的少量青春时光。

   

反思，乃是为了发掘，对于错误的发掘也是发掘，甚至有时可以称之为经典的、残酷的发掘，太少人愿意每天结束之时，去思考—今天哪里做的不好，倒是，不断给自己的所谓“失误”分摊出几个理由，借着这几个借口去批判他们之误，似乎他人在自己的借口中越是素质低下、越是俗不可耐，自己就可以无悔地、充实地忘掉一天的无所作为，然后一如既往地睡去，等待第二天的被迫醒来，再开始不安的新的一天。

   

没有发觉的反思，不是反思，也是无效的反思，孔子的“吾一日三省”之目的也是为了每日习惯、行为上的更新，我们真的没有看到孔子的言行中会显示他“三省”之中指责过旁人的不是，更多的则是孔子老人家“省”了之后，告诉自己，发生在别人身上的，自己“有则改之，无则加勉”。于是，诚心分析、改过、自勉后的孔子先生则在第二日醒来警告、重申昨日的“三省”，诚心改过不再出现自己或他人出现的学习上、生活上的问题，好方便第二日的“三省”与头一晚的“三省”有所不同，从而自身修养和思维随着“三省”的不同也有所更新。

    如此的“反思”方才是有意义的反思，否则，只是“顺”着日子的发生去“思”，那叫“顺思”，不叫“反思”。


 

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