莫犯“高级”错误

莫犯“高级”错误

 

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“低级错误”是学生时代的人们常常拿来回避问题的一种说辞,比如明明是考场上没想起来的公式,非要等发下试卷的时候不承认错误,而拿犯了“低级错误”来搪塞别人,也欺骗自己,当然,其间有微妙的心理活动,甚至自己都不能觉察到,这是不敢正视错误的一种行为,过去我的老师常常会拿“罚抄1000遍”强制我们反思,借以面对这个错误,结果是公式记住了,我们就永远地认为老师是“不辨是非”的,是“狠毒”的……

这是低级错误,那么从“比较级”的角度出发,不是那么低级,或者“高级”错误是什么样的呢?近期从教学和沟通中总结出了以下几点:

一:给我讲讲XXX的方法吧

如果XX得方法能通过给你讲一讲就能令你豁然开朗了,那么还要老师干什么?
如果所有的问题都可以简单地说明白就则已了,那么谁还去在实验室里没日没夜地工作?
再假设,理论和方法真的可以“讲一讲”就万事大吉,听者就有了大幅度的提高,那么为什么还有那么多“名师”麾下也有被开除的、落榜的学生?

二:XXX好么?XX有名么?

老师再好,也不一定适合每一个学生,学习毕竟是学生的任务,只要能起到点拨的作用,任何一位老师都可以称为是好老师;
世界上有那么多人物在死后才被大众认可,成为“名人”,那么所谓的“有名”真的难以有什么标准来判断;
那么多的得道高僧并不被我们知道,那是因为我们并不热衷于佛法,那么一个人有名无名多不在于他的影响力占多少分值,还有大众的欣赏水平处在什么欣赏档次,比如,在我小学的时候,你和我谈任何国家领导人、任何世界杯明星,对我来说,都不是“有名"的,而我的体育老师则是“名师”,因为他告诉我,这个圆东西用脚来踢,所以我们叫它“足球”。

三:XXXX之后有什么效果,XXX之后能提高多少分数?

这个就举例来说吧,假设你去问:结婚之后有什么效果,你若是答:“能生出孩子”,岂不令人耻笑,你怎么能保证二位新人全部健康无恙?
你又怎能得知他们不在新婚的第二天便不合而离异?

 

 

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    认清自己有多难

 对话录1·虚荣到不自知;

对话录2·你只是太闲了;

对话录3·你不是真的想离开

对话录5·你在意的那些其实是什么?  

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