成熟，不是表象
成熟，不是表象
文/吕布凡
当谈论起怎样的人可以称之为成熟时，稳重是大家愿意接受的一个特质，那么认知和判断呢？如果还有其他的什么理由可以判定一个人是否成熟，我想人的认知和判断上的稳重则应就当是了。
认知上的稳重，指的是稳步上升，或者说是随着时间的漂移，人的认知应当是逐步深刻、逐步提高的，如果出现了倒退，出现了停滞不前的现象，那么可以判断这人受到了严重打击，也许是生理，也许是精神，或者他过上了纸醉金迷的生活，也或者是他生活困窘到除了想填饱肚子再也无法去思考任何一个问题。
判断上的稳重呢？
判断实际是基于认知之上，对是非、高低，优劣等做出的结论。我很有幸结识到了认知观念深刻，明知自己判断失误，仍坚持观点不肯让步的人，那人果敢地坚持错误的原则、壮烈地把恶果结出来为害自己的形象许久，当初为的却是保留那不是用的虚像—面子。
我又有幸遇到过判断上极为摇摆的人，这等人倒还算在认知上在不断改进，比如今日他听了甲说乙是个千载难逢的大好人，这人就很感激甲把乙给公布了出来，并坚持相信乙是一个大好人，原因及其简单，乙好不好倒在其次，关键在于这人在认知上相信了甲，而他自己没有执着的判断力。再过了几日，丙说乙是个十恶不赦的强盗，此人就很气愤了，原来乙是这么个真面目，丙真是太令人感激了，他居然把这样惊人的消息告诉了自己，此人呢，不会去质疑甲、丙的话，把一腔的感情耗费在乙是好是坏这件事上，好了就雀跃，不好了就顿足大骂，然而无论是谁告诉了他关于乙的消息，他总毫不质疑地接受。
说这种人在认知上倒好算及格，毕竟他会随外界舆论的变化来调整对世界的看法，起伏都很有可能，如人情绪，高低不定。
在认知上堪称可笑的就是以下这种线性认知了，一面之缘看到了A，感觉有缘，A则就在这类人的心中具有绝高低位，高到无人可以用任何伟大的力量可以撼动的地步，也许一段时间之后审美疲劳，加之关于A负面的言词听多了，骤然间，此人视A为异类，无论如何也不可接受的傻瓜，日后一旦听说有任何关于A不好的结论，一概上去随波逐流大骂一番；另一条线就是起初认为B是小人，小到天地不容，之后收受了B些许好处，然则一旦有任何人发表对B有威胁的言论，一概力争雌雄、当头棒喝，舆论越是迫害B，他就哄抬得厉害，全然忘了自己早一些见解，无形对自己的嘴巴扇来扇去…好玩极了。
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