《对话录》——-2
《对话录》——-2
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多多:你好。
倾诉:我很不好。
多多:哪里不好?
倾诉:我最近脑子里总是在想自杀,不知道你有没有想过自杀的问题,给人做咨询的应该没有过吧?
多多:到现在未知还没有,这是真的,失恋的时候,有过类似的想法,不记得了,但不至于想到自杀。
倾诉:唉,我就是在想,很怕,万一我自杀了,多恐怖啊。
多多:你不会的。
倾诉:是么?你怎么知道?
多多:你告诉我的。
倾诉:没有啊,我哪里有告诉你?
多多:你的眼神。
倾诉:不是吧?
多多:你知道人的大脑一天24小时有多少想法出现么?
倾诉:很多吧?
多多:你猜一个数。
倾诉:一百多个?
多多:呵呵,太少了。
倾诉:两千?
多多:还差很多。
倾诉:那我不知道了。
多多:有两万以上。
倾诉:啊?这么多?你给我说这个有什么用呢?
多多:人的大脑平均每天有上万个想法出现,我举一个例子来说,你现在想打我一个巴掌,但是出于礼貌,你不能打,打了以后你会害怕,以后我还会不会和你谈话,这个时侯你的大脑就有第一个想法,你想打我;接下来,第二你的想法,这个是隐含的,那就是犹豫,打还是不打呢;然后是第三个想法,倾向于不打,心理假设的活动是“如果打了,那么将影响我们的关系。”接下来是第四个想法,也就是最后一个想法,不打。
倾诉:好复杂,不过能接受。
倾诉:那跟自杀什么关系呢?
多多:当然有关系。
多多:当你的大脑中出现自杀的时候,和出现你要打我,或者是出现你想吃东西的想法,是一样的,不同的是你想打我的时候,你接受了这个想法,并且对它进行评估,接下来的引起你关注的想法是“打了,会影响我们的相处关系。”,你也接受了,那就是你不会打我一巴掌。这个和自杀的想法不一样,当你脑袋里有个“自杀”这一想法的时候,你的下一个想法变得迟钝了,注意的焦点不在以后任何一个环节出现的想法上了,而是放在自我怀疑:“我怎么会想自杀呢!?”,“这可怎么办啊。”你的注意力在自杀这个词上,你恐惧它,不解受它,不接受自己出现了这样一个想法。
倾诉:哦,有点道理,那然后呢?
多多:你是被这样一个而万分之一的想法吓住了,停滞了你的注意力。
倾诉:恩,那我应该怎么办?
多多:像你平时脑子里浮现任何一种想法一样,接受它,评估它,发现不可行,止步,然后继续下一个想法。
倾诉:我好像是明白一些了,也许是我最近太闲了。
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